There are white lies, twisted lies, lies of omission, lies so big the-world-would-end-should-someone-find-out, silly lies and lies about lies. Some lies feel justified, while other lies seem completely unforgivable. Sometimes we lie so well we don’t even know they are lies.

—Whether it’s to ourselves or another, whether we are aware of it or not—

The truth about lies is everyone lies.

So when you find you’ve been lied to, or you hear yourself say, “I hate liars.” You may want to think about the lies you’ve told and untold, the feelings you felt and your reasons behind them in the moment you chose it.

Were you scared? Did you feel like there was no other option at the time? Was the lie to yourself so you could keep on going? So you could be okay in the life you were in?

Would you consider forgiving yourself for all the lies you’ve told? Would you consider yourself and your own experiences in lying before you make judgements on those that have lied to you?

*this is not about condoning or accepting people lying to you, it’s about loving yourself through the lies you’ve told—and maybe in the process understand someone else’s lie that hurt you so badly.

Copyright © 2020 Chelsey Fjeldheim, Courage Speaks Counseling