It’s not about changing and doing things differently—it’s about being here, in this moment and each moment that we get, in all the ways we get them, with all the feelings they bring. Just being in it and noticing what wants to be acknowledged, held, appreciated and seen.
Right here.
Right now.
Not good or bad.
Just as it is.
Copyright © 2020 Chelsey Fjeldheim, Courage Speaks Counseling
Sometimes something just hurts because it is happening. A moment can hurt without it being a wound. An emotion can move without needing a history.
Healthy families do not suddenly become perfectly self-aware. The difference is that slowly, almost without anyone announcing it, the system becomes a little less organized around not upsetting itself.
Blame organizes pain quickly. It gives clarity where there was confusion. It offers a villain when the story feels messy. But it also flattens humanity.
Because you matter. You are important. You are worth it.