“Secretly, I sometimes wish that something really bad did happen to me so I’d have a reason to be this broken.
I hear all these stories of horrible childhoods, really traumatic experiences and I don’t have any of those. I have no reason to feel like this, to be like this, to have this many problems. What is wrong with me?”
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The same belief can come from very different experiences. It could be created by horrific abuse or by a parent that works so hard to give you the best life and in turn isn’t available to meet your emotional needs.
These are two very different experiences and yet – they can create the exact same belief.
When we live our lives believing, for example, ‘I have no value’. – no matter where the belief came from – we are going to behave as though we have no value.
This is why traumas are not comparable.
In the end, no matter how the belief was created – we will walk through this life proving to ourselves over and over again that it’s true.
….until we see our deeper truth.
Copyright © 2022 Chelsey Fjeldheim, Courage Speaks Counseling
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