Our experiences in life lead us to where we end up, but they don’t have to define who we are today.
You might try saying to yourself, “I had a traumatic experience, but I am not that experience.”
Ask yourself, “Who would I be without this story? Who do I want to be today?”
Is it possible to use your experience, your story, to help someone else with theirs?
Copyright © 2020 Chelsey Fjeldheim, Courage Speaks Counseling
Sometimes something just hurts because it is happening. A moment can hurt without it being a wound. An emotion can move without needing a history.
Healthy families do not suddenly become perfectly self-aware. The difference is that slowly, almost without anyone announcing it, the system becomes a little less organized around not upsetting itself.
Blame organizes pain quickly. It gives clarity where there was confusion. It offers a villain when the story feels messy. But it also flattens humanity.
Because you matter. You are important. You are worth it.